Fate or destiny?

If you had asked me a year ago if I thought that my ‘fate was sealed’, I probably would have answered ‘yes’.

I lived with my husband and our two dogs in a beautiful house with a large garden in rural Denmark. I worked part-time from home which gave me enough time to do the household and enjoy my hobbies (photography and painting). The days went by one after the other, there was a routine, an acceptance. Then came COVID and it forced us to think about our lives and what we wanted. When we finally got divorced to preserve our friendship it was not a surprise but it still took me a while to figure out what to do – suddenly everything was possible again.

But was I brave enough to try and turn fate into destiny? The answer is ‘yes’.

When my mother died some years ago, I had promised myself that at the end of my life I don’t want to say ‘I wish I had’ and this was one of those moments where I had to keep this promise. So I decided to start completely new. While I have no concrete long-term plans, I do have dreams, a vision and a goal. I will no longer accept that fate decides my life but instead I will create my own destiny.

Where that destiny will be and what it will look like – I don’t know (yet) – but nobody does.

What I do know is that I will celebrate every success along the way and that I will get up again whenever I fall. I will dance among the stars, howl together with the moon, smile brighter than the sun and cry in the rain…I will live my life.

Now I sit here in my van – which has become my home -, I look at the endless ocean and listen to the sound of the wind and the waves. My soul is filled with freedom and creativity. My future is an empty book of which I don’t even know the title but it is waiting to be filled with adventures and experiences, with ideas and thoughts, with photos, paintings and poetry.
This blog will be my 'journ(ey)al' - and so the story begins.

To say it with one of my favourite quotes:

'One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star.'

- Friedrich Nietzsche

…and, oh boy, do I have plenty of chaos in myself…

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6 Comments

  1. Andrew Atkinson on July 19, 2021 at 08:35

    Can’t wait to see what those empty pages fill with. I wish you an amazing creative journey and all the luck in the world.

    If your journey brings you to the UK let me know as it would be great to catch up.

  2. Emmanuel on July 19, 2021 at 09:35

    Thank you for sharing this blog. “suddenly everything was possible again”. Wow! And so the journey.story begins.. Wherever this journey takes you, know that there are those of us who are vicariously traveling with you and wishing you well, wishing you the best. I am looking forward to the next entries.

  3. Hanne-Lise Enghoff on July 19, 2021 at 10:04

    I am sure it will be a fantastic journ(ey)al, and I look forward to your next visit and to follow you here

  4. Judi on July 19, 2021 at 16:44

    What a spirit you have to completely change your life and start fresh. I think sometimes many of us wish to just do that. Start fresh and “do what I want”. While my husband and I are together we have no children. I picture as we retire we will both be able to do more of what we want without the restrictions of a work schedule. For me that is photography and for him golf and I encourage him to find another hobby as well. Maybe woodworking. Something so he doesn’t drive me insane over the winter. Lol. Blessings to you my friend and I can’t wait to see where the open road leads you. I love having my stick home but also envy your van.

  5. Willi Sagert on July 27, 2021 at 12:04

    Ich finde das großartig. “Es muss in Leben doch mehr als Alles geben”

    • Isabel on September 11, 2021 at 16:19

      Zumindest müssen wir doch herausfinden, was das Leben uns alles zu bieten hat 🙂

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